Toxic Religion 1/?
In the book Toxic Faith, the authors present twenty-one beliefs that they say constitute a Toxic Faith. They write, “Faith is slowly poisoned as lies and false ideas are integrated into a person’s beliefs about God. At first glance they make such good sense. And plenty of people support and distort beliefs that have been around for thousands of years.”
My question is, “Why have these distorted beliefs been around for thousands of years?” Perhaps, it not the individual christian who has a adopted a Toxic Faith. But rather, it’s the religion itself that’s toxic. Let’s take a deeper look into some of these 21 toxic beliefs and see where they might have originated.
Toxic Faith #1: God’s love and favor depend on my behavior.
“The Central theme of the bible is that God is love.”
Actually, it’s not! The phrase “God is love” is found only once in the entire bible in 1 John 4:16. Instead, what the bible repeatedly teaches about God is quite different. The bible seems to teach that God’s love and favor does indeed depend on behavior. Perhaps churches want to believe that God is Love, but their mission statements don’t really reflect that belief. If you’ve ever attended an evangelical church, you know what’s really being taught from the pulpit, and it’s not God’s love. Let’s look at another characteristic of God that is repeatedly revealed in the bible.
An Angry, Jealous God
“If we deliberately go on sinning after we have received the knowledge of the truth, no further sacrifice for sins remains, but only a fearful expectation of judgment and of raging fire that will consume all adversaries. Anyone who rejected the law of Moses died without mercy on the testimony of two or three witnesses. How much more severely do you think one deserves to be punished who has trampled on the Son of God, profaned the blood of the covenant that sanctified him, and insulted the Spirit of grace? For we know Him who said, “Vengeance is Mine; I will repay,” and again, “The Lord will judge His people.” It is a fearful thing to fall into the hands of the living God.” (Hebrews 10:26-31)
“Our God is a consuming fire.” (Hebrews 12:29)
“The LORD your God, who is among you, is a jealous God. The anger of the LORD your God will be kindled against you, and He will wipe you off the face of the earth.” (Deuteronomy 6: 13-15)
“For the LORD your God is a consuming fire, a jealous God. After you have children and grandchildren and you have been in the land a long time, if you then act corruptly—doing evil in the sight of the LORD your God and provoking Him to anger—I call heaven and earth as witnesses against you this day that you will quickly perish from the land that you are crossing the Jordan to possess. You will not live long upon it but will be utterly destroyed. Then the LORD will scatter you among the peoples, and only a few of you will survive among the nations to which the LORD will drive you.” (Deuteronomy 4:24-26)
“Do not intermarry with them. Do not give your daughters to their sons or take their daughters for your sons, because they will turn your sons away from following Me to serve other gods. Then the anger of the LORD will burn against you, and He will swiftly destroy you.” (Deuteronomy 7:3-4)
“The LORD is a jealous and avenging God; the LORD takes vengeance and is filled with wrath. The LORD takes vengeance on his foes and vents his wrath against his enemies.” (Nahum 1:2)
“I, the LORD your God, am a jealous God, punishing the children for the sin of the parents to the third and fourth generation of those who hate me.” (Deut. 5:9.)
“Joshua said to the people, “You are not able to serve the LORD. He is a holy God; he is a jealous God. He will not forgive your rebellion and your sins.” (Joshua 24:19)
And the famous and most popular verse for evangelicals,
“The wages of sin is death.” (Romans 6:23.)
Guess that dispels the falsehood that God’s love does not depend on your behavior. No wonder christians believe that their God’s love depends on their behavior. It’s being taught in the bible and from the pulpit.
Abusive Churches
In their book entitled The Subtle Power of Spiritual Abuse, Johnson and Van Vonderen say this about abusive churches.
“Therefore, a spiritual system to be avoided is one in which the leaders or teachers add the performance of religious behaviors to the performance of Jesus on the cross as a means to find God’s approval. (False teachers say), ‘Faith in Jesus is right, and you must have it. But it is not enough. In order to really find positive standing in God’s eyes, you must ___________.” Fill in the blank with whatever fits for your church.”
When they say, “God’s eyes”, it should actually read “in the eyes of other christians”. Blaming this form of religious legalism on God is unhealthy. Let’s see what it takes to please other christians.
For the past several years I have been studying church mission statements and have found a number of behaviors that are required if a fellow believer wants to belong to a certain church. Let’s fill in the blank with what can be found in church mission statements. What follows is by no means an exhaustive list.
In order to be considered as a part of our church you must _____________________.
- Belief in the divinity of Christ, his virgin birth, resurrection, ascension into heaven, and second coming.
- Be born again.
- Repent of your sins.
- Be baptized: immersion only.
- Participate in the sacrament of communion.
- Receive the holy spirit.
- Speak in other tongues.
- Believe that the bible is inerrant.
- Believe in a six-day creation story.
- Believe that Adam and Eve were actual historical characters.
- Believe in original sin and “the fall”.
- Believe that all of mankind is totally depraved.
- Believe in eternal life for us and eternal punishment for them.
- Study the bible: exclusively the King James version.
- Attend bible study meetings.
- Memorize scriptures.
- Thoroughly receive and believe the Nicene Creed and the Apostles’ Creed.
- Not use any human creed.
- Follow the 10 commandments.
- Attend church on the first day of the week.
- Attend church on the last day of the week, (the day God rested).
- Attend prayer meetings.
- Use only a cappella music without instruments during church services.
- Not dance.
- Abstain from liquor and strong drink.
- Abstain from the use of tobacco.
- Abstain from swearing and using harsh language.
- If you’re woman you must abstain from wearing jewelry and other adornment.
- Under no circumstances should any church members initiate or seek a divorce.
- And most importantly, you must not be gay.
To further illustrate the systemic toxicity of religious beliefs, consider the words of a christian blogger in a blog entitled, “The uncomfortable truth about the wrath of God.” He writes,
“How is it possible for God, who is love, to show wrath toward His children? (Clarification — as you will read, God loves mankind, the world, His creation. But not all mankind are children of God. God’s children are the people who believe in Him, have been born again, and accepted Jesus Christ as (their personal) Lord and Savior. When I use “Children of God” in this post, I am refering (sic) to born again believers).”
Excuse me! When he says that God loves mankind, he’s really means that God only loves those people who have joined the exclusive Jesus Club. Seems to me that according to that blogger, God does not actually love “all mankind, the whole world, nor all creation”. But rather, God’s love is reserved for an elite few and comes with conditions. He continues,
“God is love. He is not a God of wrath. His wrath is a secondary attribute, not His nature. His wrath is the required response of a holy God to sin…”
Required response? Yikes!
From Where I Stand.
A different POV from a different kind of believer.
Of the over 80 church mission statements I have read, only a small fraction of them actually mentions love (at all), even fewer mention God’s love and fewer still profess God’s love to be unconditional. The following statement is taken from one such church.
“We belief that when God created the world, and human beings in particular, God said, “This is good.” Our origin story is one of goodness. We believe this goodness applies to all of humanity, regardless of gender, gender identity, sexual orientation, race, abled or differently-abled bodies. We cannot create our union with God. It is objectively already given. There’s nothing we can do or not do to increase or decrease God’s love for us. We believe that we belong to God long before, or even if we never believe in God. God’s love is eternal, always welcoming, and does not require any transaction on our part. As a faith community, our call is to accept that we are already accepted by God, and to live a life imitating God’s love by doing justice, loving kindness, and walking in humility with God.”
Meaning (for them) that God’s love is not based on whether a person claims to be “born again”. Since mankind’s union with God already exists, people cannot create that union by joining the Jesus club and saying that they have suddenly become a child of God.
(I feel the need to point out that I am no longer affiliated with any church, nor do I attend church. However, I do believe that this church’s view of God does away with Toxic Faith #1 and thus, is a healthier way to live.)
Unfortunately, because of their beliefs, this church receives hate mail from other christians. Perhaps the haters are threatened by this church offering God’s unconditional love to everyone. “How dare they! Don’t they know that the Jesus Club is an exclusive for members only club. We don’t want “those kinds of people” in our club.”
Is it any wonder christians believe that God’s love depends on their behavior? It’s what has been, and continues to be, taught in almost every sector and denomination of Christendom. It’s not an individual’s faith that is toxic; it’s their religion.

From Where I Stand
April 12, 2026
Eastern Orthodox Easter
Dale Crum
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